4 Different Styles of Parenting
Parenting is like birds that are unaware of the directions but know the destination. Parents have diverse styles of raising their kids. Some parents feel that being strict with kids is essential whereas some like to be linnet with kids. Different parents have different parenting methods. In this article, we will cover 4 different styles of parenting.
Several studies concluded that parenting is troublesome and classifying it is more complex. Yet, we have tried our best to simplify it to four different styles of parenting:
- Authoritarian Parenting
- Permissive Parenting
- Uninvolved Parenting
- Authoritative Parenting
1. Authoritarian Parenting:
As the heading suggests, this type of parent is the one who believes in being discipline every time. They prefer their kids to grow in strict discipline, and if the kids fail to obey, kids might get punished. Moreover, there is one-way communication where only parents speak, and children listen. Parents expect children to obey every order. They even tend to control every action of their child. Parents spend time with their kids but fail to enjoy it.
- Well-disciplined children
- Tend to achieve more academic success as compared to other kids.
- Difficulty in expressing themselves.
- Children show behavioral issues.
- Lower self-esteem.
- Poor social skills.
- Tend to take a lot of time to open up to people.
2. Permissive Parenting
In Permissive parenting, the parents are loving and caring towards the children. But they fail to see children as mature adults to take up their own decisions. There are no rules. All they know is about giving everything to their kids without expecting anything.
- More loving parents.
- Parents always ask children for their opinions.
- Kids treat their parents as their friends.
- When kids start growing they make their own decisions. It only results in more risky behavior and often tends to indulge in wrong activities.
- Intimacy among kids and parents starts decreasing.
- Instead of hovering over kids parents agree with everything kids want or need.
- There is no discipline or time management in kids.
3. Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved parenting also refers to ” Neglectful parenting.” Their motto is simple” do nothing and say nothing.” parents allow their children to do whatever they want to do. This type of parenting generally makes the kids feel neglected or rejected. Parents are too much self-absorbed that they don’t pay any attention to the kids.
- Children get involved in themselves, and they keep out of their parent’s issue.
- It helps children to become independent, and they start looking after themselves.
- Kids grow with little or no love.
- They develop low attachment and less social skills.
- The guidance of parents is not there with them.
- Children lose focus on studies and face a hard time to open to people.
4. Authoritative Parenting
Saving best for the last. Authoritative Parenting is genuinely the best as works on 2-way communication, unlike Authoritarian Parenting. Both parent and child take an active part in discussions and both the parties listen to each other. It also involves problem-solving and understanding among parents and children. Authoritative Parenting is especially for the parents who believe in failing and then trying again. Authoritative Parenting is more of a commitment and promise among parents and children. Even if the child misbehaves then parents try to solve the problem with discussions and believe in finding the cause.
- Parents and kids work as a team. They are one entity.
- Communication is the basis of the relationship between parents and children.
- Children learn how to share and care for each other.
- Kids know that parents will always have their back.
- Kids are free to make their own choices. However, they also understand the importance of family and respect them.
- They are less prone to depression or anxiety as they always have people to share their problems with.
- Children raised by authoritative parents are self-reliant, socially accepted, academically successful, and well-behaved.
- Often kids find it difficult to maintain a balance.
- It requires parents to have a high amount of patience because they might fail at times. But patience is all that they need because every good thing takes time.
As parents, it’s our duty to stick by our kids, however, every parent prefers different ways to handle their child. Some might find the first one the better. Similarly, some might prefer the latter one. Personally, I prefer Authoritative Parenting but you know your child better and you what’s best for them. Furthermore, parenting influences, not just a child’s development, but also the development of the parent. Parenting is all about taking chances and then sticking up to them. So, choose wisely because your child’s future depends on you.
Some of the scholars have recommended a few books which are helpful in parenting. Some of the books are:
- The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind
- 5 Love Languages Of Children: The Secret To Loving Children Effectively
- MotherStyles: Using Personality Type to Discover Your Parenting Strengths
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